"I find it amazing I could express my hurt and anger, we could deal with it, and then move on, just as if this is as common an occurrence as the sun rising. It was as if I do this all the time and it is easy and normal. This is sunny? Does it take a year and a half of bonding with someone and developing trust to be able to easily tell them you are hurt and angry? I don't know, but I am happy to have this, at least for a short while, with one person in my life. "

Awesome =) Yep - it's suny! And yeah, i think it does take that long in healing and a good relationship to get to that point. I sort of got that (not really a lecture ,but a talking point) from t last night. Because of the confusion around the idea of inf fraud and how upset it made with by being out of congruence with who i am, she launched into this thing about communication and how important it is to say things that are upsetting or confusing right then and there so we can deal with it - no anger on her part. that "if I am confused, I check with her, and likewise if she is confused she'll check with me - that this is all apart of helthy relationships". *whew*! that was a lot to process for my brain and my typing fingers.

In other words, I think it is super and also very healing for you to be at that point! Yay YOU!