Exactly how many lost checks and appointment books am I supposed to forgive, though? To write a new check or cancel the old one or tell her when my next appointment is is inconvenient to me, especially since she knows she got the check.

She’s not a relative or a friend, who would get a much longer leash. She’s never been that focused, but this is a new level. I realize it’s explicable by grief, and it’s not like I haven’t experienced grief myself and its side-effects, but I also feel like I can’t object to her about this, because I wouldn’t object to anyone about this.

*And for goodness’s sake please no one chide or condescend to me about this. I think it’s fair to be annoyed at this, and we all know I’ll end up writing her another check because it is money she’s entitled to. But either I whine here or I go off on a grieving widow.