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Old Mar 03, 2021, 04:16 PM
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Originally Posted by chihirochild View Post
My psychiatrist got involved in the mess between my T and me. He told her his side and then I told her mine. I was shocked that she would say this bc propriety and professionalism and all that, but she actually agreed with me that he’s overstepping here. She says that people should be allowed to bring into therapy what they want to bring. And all his nonsense about it being unethical to avoid this topic bc I had SI after breaking up with a BF in the past is just that: nonsense. She thinks he’s afraid. She’s going to talk to him about it. And he really trusts and respects her (she is very experienced and has a very prestigious position in a very big and prestigious hospital system) so maybe he’ll listen.

In the meantime, T has left me several voicemails. None of them say anything especially new or different.

(For thise who missed the beginning of the saga, my T had been insisting that I talk to him about my sexual and intimate life with my BF; when I refused to say more than I was comfortable with, he said he wouldn’t treat me anymore unless I started talking about it.)

I know y’all think I should kick him to the curb. The problem is that I feel attached to him. And he knows me and my nonsense backwards and forwards. Also, frankly, I’m moving across the country in four months and it’d be a pain in the butt to find a therapist for four months until I move and can find someone else there.

I'm glad your p-doc has gotten involved. Maybe she can knock some sense into him? I do wonder if it's that he's afraid, but that doesn't make how he's acting toward you OK.

And I understand your wanting to stay with him. Attachment is a powerful force. Plus the move. And God knows, I stuck with my T at times that others have said that I shouldn't have. I'm ultimately glad that I did (well for now at least!), but there were definitely some painful points in there. And it can be so hard to tell what direction things will go in.


I hope you can work it out and have a good ending with him. I hope your p-doc talks to him soon.
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