Well you have bipolar and cptsd too. I think what your husband is trying to say is that you can trigger him. It sounds like he loves you yet genuinely gets confused.

Mental illness is no picnic. And others struggle to understand it. People don’t understand unless they experience it for themselves.

I think it’s a step in the right direction that you are trying to listen. I think it’s also a positive that you recovered instead of going on and on with anger etc. Thats a big deal.