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I'm just starting, my change is not going to happen overnight.

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Oh, please! I think we all know that everyone is at a different stage in their recovery. The reason I quoted what I did is because that's part of the greater issue. It's not expected that you or anyone accept what is being said and act on it immediately. All some of us would love to see is that some of our help is at least THOUGHT about, questions asked as to how we accomplished what we have. Maybe a little less deffensiviness and a bit more thought and questioning about the fine points would ease our own frustration and impatience and would help US.

You mentioned that the direction this thread was taking was upsetting you. Good! That means that what is being said is taking you out of your comfort zone... and that means CHANGE. Presisely those things that make you angry need to be looked at introspectively to find out WHY. What in you needs a different perspective so that you understand rather than get angry.

I have faith in you, AngelGirl. You seem to have a more open mind than some around here.

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WOW!!! I've got very mixed feelings about your post to me. Those first 2 words "Oh please" really got to me, along with the entire first paragraph, but I guess because I'm very sensitive and fragile.

What I didn't like about the direction this thread was going was the constant barrage of comments directed at IG. Maybe my feelings were misplaced, I wasn't aware of the prior history that went on and I was putting myself in his shoes and know I would've been upset. I would've felt ganged up on. When I later read in the thread that it was an intervention, then I understood it better.

What in me needs a better perspective? Hmmmmmm, probably everything!!!

Thank you for having faith in me. You're right, I do have an open mind because I don't like feeling this bad about myself. I know that others like me, I'm often called 'sweet' and have been for years. I don't know why but I want to learn how others view me so that I can understand it and feel the same way. I want to see what is good about me. I know I do have some good qualities, so that's a start, right?