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Originally Posted by sarcgeo
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I have had my profile on many online dating sites for months now and recently deleted all of my profiles. I have not had any success with getting messages and perhaps my red flags are many.
As I have been told previously, the fact that I am still married, not yet divorced is a HUGE red flag for many people. But, they don't understand that I can't afford a divorce right now. I would like to add that we live separately.
Second, another huge red flag...I haven't healed from my past.
So, people who haven't been divorced and not over their past apparently are huge red flags.
I go now back to living under my rock. Also, I am pretty sure this pandemic is not helping things either.
--Sarc
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I’m not a present for anybody!
What I mean is that I’m not perfect either. I have warning signs or bells jumping everywhere.
You come across here as you don’t value yourself even a bit. Look at what you wrote. You see yourself as a huge red flag.
You want to know what I think about your “red flag”,? I don’t give it a ****, as long as you are honest with the other person you are in a date with, who gives a damn?
For me, red flags or warning signs take place when a person is not sincere and has a hidden agenda.
I’m a depressed person, pathologically shy, not very social, with a very low self-esteem and full of insecurities. Sure, it’s not something nice to start a relationship. But, at least, I’m honest and I say what there is. So, I don’t consider myself a danger for anybody.
You aren’t either, sarc! Please, don’t think like that.
Ok, you are honest enough to admit that you haven’t still passed page but it doesn’t mean you can’t have contacts with other women, while you are being honest with them. Most of us, have our packages in the past. It doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to look for happiness.