First of all I have to apologize for my bad English, I was out of the forum for some time and didn't have a chance to practice. Please ignore all the mistakes.

So, me and my therapist. I'm female, he's male, 10 years older than men, if it's important. It seems to me that our borders are very blurred now.

It's maybe even okay that we hug about 3 times a year, this is not much and is generally allowed, even though it's not common in my country.

Sometimes he talks about himself, even very personal stuff wich is not related to my issues, this is also generally allowed, although not encouraged.

Last time he finished the session 10 minutes earlier, because he needed to get somewhere in time and uber came to pick him up, he actually ordered uber while beeing in session with me, which is not very ethical. He also said last time that he is burining out, and therefore decided to work less, how ethical is it? As a client, I should not be concerned, whether he is burning out or not, if you cannot work - don't work, and if you work - don't make excuses. And I doubt he's telling other clients that, especially new ones.He also said "I will always find time for you" (= "I'm going to work less, but if you really need me you can text me and I'll find a slot for you"). Is it okay? I feel like I'm special for him. He is also subscribed to my public page in one of the social network and he also congratulated me on my birthday. We work together for 5 years, and it was the first time he texted me, the first time he contacted me outside of session. It all seems like little things, but all together... Or am I overthinking?

You'll probably say "discuss it with him", but I assume that we both pretend that nothing is happening, and if he is forced to admit that our relationship has gone beyond the boundaries of the therapist-patient, then most likely we will not be able to work with me anymore and, accordingly, stay in touch, because we cannot be friends. I'm very attached to him so I would be devasted. I don't know what to do, what to think. Will be grateful for any advice, but please don't judge me or him.