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Originally Posted by chihirochild
Well, that was a colossal bust. Psychiatrist made it sound like T had budged a little but he absolutely had not. Eff the both of them.
I texted my BF trying to explain why I am sad about this, and I don’t feel like he gets it. (How could he; he’s a pretty reserved guy who could never open up to a therapist.) I’m okay with him not getting it, but then he said, “don’t be sad” which is just the dumbest thing in the face of the earth to say to someone who is sad.
Now I’m all spinning out and worried that BF will break up with me when I tell him the extent of my mental health stuff and then I’ll be T-less and BF-less to boot and then I’ll just be so so so sad.
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Ugh, I'm sorry your T sucked.
As for your BF, I feel like someone who hasn't experience these sorts of feelings doesn't realize how unhelpful "don't be sad" can be (along with "It will be OK" or "things could be much worse," etc.). He probably just doesn't know what to say and wants to fix your sadness (stereotypical, but guys tend to want to fix things vs. just listen). Maybe tell him you just need him to listen and be there with you while you're sad? Say what could help, like, if you're seeing him in person, do you want him to hold you (maybe without any other thing happening)?
He probably doesn't really understand about the T thing. H never really seemed to understand about the ex-MC attachment. I think it's a difficult thing to explain unless someone has experienced attachment like that to someone (not necessarily a T), just how overwhelming the emotions can be. And how it's likely tapping back into stuff from your past. I hope he's able to support you and help you through it, even if he doesn't know the right things to say.
And you can always post on here, too. And feel free to PM me as well.