I can only speak for myself and tell you to not give up. I have had therapists tell me the same thing and I have had a very horrible childhood and tons of suffering all to be told that short term therapy was all they could do for me. I did not give up and finally I got a therapist 2 years ago who im still with and im making progress finally after 18 years in the system. Maybe try a different therapy clinic that might not be with VA but offer help for you with trained therapist. I am very sorry you are not getting the help you truly deserve. I can also tell you that it's not selfish in getting help it's brave of you. Please know we are here for you. Hugs