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Originally Posted by Rive.
I, for one, am not expecting him to be superhuman but to demonstrate basic human compassion towards someone (his spouse!) who is struggling with a MI. Is that too much to ask to show some respect rather than to lose it and treat you so badly? I really don't see how that is helpful.
I also don't see it as justifiable that just because someone (he) runs out of patience, it is okay to demean, shout down, abuse someone else.
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This is not normal behavior. He's been supportive all along through the decades. I really wonder if he's burned out.
My cousin who is also bipolar gave me some great advice. He told me I have to own it first, then it will be easier to control. I needed a few days to think about what he meant by that, and I think it means taking 100% responsibility for your illness and how it affects others. Own the meltdowns, the sudden outbursts of anger, own it even when you don't remember what you did (happens to me a lot). I stopped blaming everything I do wrong on my illness, stopped making excuses, like throwing a hairbrush through the bedroom window and saying I was aiming for the wall. I have damaged walls, doors, and furniture in a fit of rage. I don't know if it will stop or not. Time will tell.