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Kiya wrote:
"if I am confused, I check with her, and likewise if she is confused she'll check with me - that this is all apart of helthy relationships".

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Kiya, that is such a good skill to work on. I need to be better at that too. My T has told me multiple times that a good first step in communicating is to seek clarification on what the other person meant, before jumping to one's own conclusions.

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Perna said:
A divorce with good experience to help you in your life ahead. Who knew? LOL

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">LOL, well my T knew. He told me very early on that a divorce could be a life-transforming experience. He has said a number of times, when you get a divorce, your heart breaks.... wide open. As time passes, I am understanding more and more of what he meant.