Stacey, I wonder if its not more that fact that we need to "FEEL the void" rather than FILL? I think for me, the emptyness was all the mourning I had split off for all the needs that had gone unmet? Nothing can FILL that because it doesn't need FILLING, but FEELING. theres a lot to be said for finding someone that is willing to sit with you as you experience these FEELINGS and not try to buy you off.