Attraction is about more than looks in the long run. Maybe I can explain it this way. Take the game of baseball as a way to explain this. Once you hit the ball, you have to run to first base before you are able to reach second, third, or home plate. The ultimate goal in baseball is to score runs. The ultimate goal of a relationship would be to discover all the things that truly matter besides looks, such as personality, one's good heart, etc. Think of it this way as "looks" being the same as 1st base. Hitting a single and reaching 1st base is not nearly as important as rounding the other bases and reaching home plate . ...... Here's the point. Looks are the same as 1st base...... Once you're thrown out and can't reach 1st base, that's it! Life is the same , like it or not.