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Old Mar 08, 2021, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted by BetrayedGamer View Post
I worry about a fight for the house. She's told me she wants to agree to a settlement outside of lawyers, but I want to be prepared.

Does any of this matter when the house becomes a fight:
1. She has a kid, I just have dogs.

2. The divorce is 100percent her choice. She has refused to work on things, and has refused numerous attempts requesting to go to a Marriage counselor.

3. I get proof that she's having an emotional affair online.

FYI (and I know it's a question) there is no history of domestic violence. I've never laid a hand on her. I've never broken anything in the house out of anger. At worse I've raised my voice.
You either would have to buy each other out or sell the house and split proceeds. If you live in a no fault state, which are most states now, her affair or not wanting marriage counseling will not effect how divorce will go and how finances will be split.

I’d talk to a lawyer, first consultation is often free and ask for guidance. Don’t do anything drastic until you get legal advice

I don’t think she’d automatically get the house because she has a kid. It’s her kid. Not yours together. If she will keep the house, she’ll have to buy you out. It might not be a bad idea. You then can move on with your life in a new place.

Just talk to a lawyer and share what you want to happen. Then see what will be possible and realistic

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