Dear campuslow,

I am so very, very sorry you are in such an unhappy situation. It sounds so utterly heartbreaking and I can't even imagine the pain you must go through and have gone through. I wish I had some useful insight or wisdom to share, but sadly I have never been very good at relationships and am pretty much a hermit as a result. So I am really the last person on earth to offer advice. Hopefully others here with greater experience, insight and wisdom will see your post and respond to it with something really helpful to you. It is awful that you are in the situation you describe. It must be so stressful and distressing. So sorry . . . so very sorry I could not be helpful to you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen