So Sorry about what happened. i am afraid i must agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about moving on and let her be. It seems like this has been difficult for all the parties involved so at minimum it will take time before she is able to get over this at least in my opinion. i'd suggest not to dwell too much over it although i understand it hurts. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Lostpossum, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!