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What I really like about him is that when I am angry at him, he doesn't get defensive. He listens to what I have to say and responds. No anger in return. Just an open desire to understand.

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Ahh... how great this must have been. Totally different than the typical exchange with a VB H.

No I don't think it will take a year and half to establish this with others. You likely spent much of this time just digging out of the foxhole you had to create to survive your marriage. Now that this relationship is ending and you have experienced what a two-way communication is like, you will be more receptive to sharing yourself with others who deserve it. You will get more efficient. At least this is what I am hoping for myself.