Through life you will meet people with varying degrees of closeness. That is perfectly normal and is expected to happen. The only observation I've made, and even experienced, is when someone claims to be close to you but their actions tell a slightly different story. It doesn't mean you guys are not friends, you guys may be friends, but not as close as they may claim you are. I've had people in the past and even now claim to be best friends with me, but their actions not just towards me, but towards others, make me think otherwise.

I know someone who has claimed to be best friends with someone else in the past but as soon as they were no longer going to the same school, the person I know just dropped all contact. She admits to not trying even though she claims to be close friends. This same person claims that we will be close or best friends forever. I agree just to be polite, but deep down inside, I know that this isn't true. Another factor that plays into this is if they have no one else to hang out with. In that case, they could just be saying that until they find someone else or another group.

I don't particularly believe in friends forever since they never seem to happen, but when someone says one thing but I see how they are with others, it makes me not believe them. Someone may be super close to another person, but as soon as they're not together, it's all over. Now this doesn't mean that I think less of them or think they are a toxic person, although this can be the case for some people. It can just simply mean that they are not as close to people as they put on or are afraid to get close despite claiming to be someone's close or best friend.

That's why when someone says that to me, I secretly know that one day, the same person will drop all contact with me especially if the person moves away or finds someone else to be around who they may like better. Again, I may still consider them a friend, but nothing more than that. Just a casual friend. If it does last years or a lifetime, then awesome. But I don't hold my breath. When I hear someone say we will be friends forever, I'm secretly thinking, nope, not going to happen especially based on behaviors towards other people. I know it sounds paranoid but it is a form of protection from being hurt. I don't believe anything until proven otherwise by their actions.