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Old Mar 10, 2021, 04:01 PM
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Originally Posted by rdgrad15 View Post
Aw I'm sorry this made you sad. Don't stop trying to make friends though. I just simply don't expect friendships and even those in relationships to last long until proven otherwise. And I'm glad I'm not the only one who is attentive of not just how someone treats me, but how someone treats others. In fact, in a lot of cases, my observations of how someone treats others is what makes me think about how they really are and how they could potentially treat me. Not everything negative that I've mentioned people can do has happened to me. In a lot of cases, I just saw it happen to someone else or even multiple people and I'll be thinking, "Uh oh, that could happen to me too. Better maintain some distance from this person."

Unless there's a very good reason for it, usually if someone treats others a certain way, then they will treat you. The only time I may disregard it is if someone treats just one other person a certain way but is nicer to everyone else. IN that case, that could just indicate bad blood. But when it seems like someone treats anyone else the same way, then that is a sign that's just how they are and they will do the same thing to you. I think the fact that I'm an introvert makes me way more attentive to how other people behave and I tend to see things more or faster than others around me do. I'll notice something in someone's behavior but they won't see it until it's too late.
Don’t worry for me. It’s part of life’s lessons. As long as I can be myself and can take my head up. The rest is up to other people.
Much part of me not having friends is because of my issues, you know social phobia and such. I practically avoid any kind of social situation. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t have my dreams. When I see a movie where there are a group of friends I always feel a sane envy. I never had that.

I have a solid base of principles, and I recognised that I’m very critical. Maybe this is another problem, the fact that I’m not confortable with people being friends because of interests. And as you say when I see a person developing in his own environment, with relatives, his group of friends and then, which image this person shows to me, I’m always prone to catch a clue to see if this person is worthy of my friendship.

It doesn’t mind what people says, what minds is how they act.
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Thanks for this!
rdgrad15