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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Don’t worry for me. It’s part of life’s lessons. As long as I can be myself and can take my head up. The rest is up to other people.
Much part of me not having friends is because of my issues, you know social phobia and such. I practically avoid any kind of social situation. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t have my dreams. When I see a movie where there are a group of friends I always feel a sane envy. I never had that.
I have a solid base of principles, and I recognised that I’m very critical. Maybe this is another problem, the fact that I’m not confortable with people being friends because of interests. And as you say when I see a person developing in his own environment, with relatives, his group of friends and then, which image this person shows to me, I’m always prone to catch a clue to see if this person is worthy of my friendship.
It doesn’t mind what people says, what minds is how they act.
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I agree that actions speak louder than words too. And I'm the same way, when I see a group of friends in movies or even in real life, I do feel a sense of longing to have that. I've never had a group of good friends. The closest I've come was in college where I had a group of friends but several turned out to not actually be friends. And yes observing other people's behavior and how they treat you is beneficial to protecting yourself.
If you see someone treating multiple people in a certain way, they are definitely going to do it to you even if they promise they never would. That even goes for how someone feels about others. If someone calls another person a close friend but then throws them away like a piece of trash or at least doesn't bother to keep up a friendship, then I'll assume that they will do the same to me so either I keep a casual friendship where I expect nothing from them or just remain acquaintances with them.