The fact that he is Married would already be a big no-no for me i i were in a similar situation. Please be REALLY careful. i think there are other men you can go out with whom aren't Married. i know it's hard but Please do consider interrupting communications with him, kindly but firmly. You deserve better than this and so does his Partner. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Miss Laura, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!