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I also told her that I have to think of her as a mother and read by some one who declares themselves as recovered from BPD that a therapist isn't a mother and can never be, and I asked T if my thinking of her as a mother is wrong? She said that I percieve her as sometimes the Good mother and sometimes the bad mother and as long as I know she Isn't my mother then its fine to percieve in that way because thats how my issues will be worked through. I said I know your not my mother, but I do tend to think how it would have been to have had a good enought mother and then put you into that catogary when I need someone to fall back on in my mind. T said, yes and thats fine, because I am proberbly having my first experience of a good enought mother now. I thought the person who wrote the essay was being rather harsh and felt myself distancing my self from the hard b/w facts of what therapy is and isn't and realised that the ablity to just relax into my recovery is an important part of recovery.


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Mouse I can't thank you enough for sharing this. Earlier today I was going to post about how I am stuck on this, and wondering if I should be or if I'm interfering in my own recovery by thinking of T as a mother. I decided to not post about it because I wanted to journal about it and talk to T about it next time.

It's a wonderful thought, sitting with T in 20 years.