My dads family is kind of like that. They were assholes to us when I was growing up. We’d be invited to family gatherings because my grandma wanted us there but we would be put in a corner or they would have their backs to us at the table. Now since my grandma and dad are dead my uncle refuses to have anything to do with my mom or us. And we are just confused as to why. I just have the uncle and 2 cousins on that side. But my uncle was super helpful to my dad when he was sick and dying. Then after the funeral he just ditched my mom and my siblings and I. That was 7 years ago and he should be doing a lot for us in my opinion. I don’t even know if my cousin is married. My uncle just lives a few blocks away too.

Luckily my moms side of the family is the complete opposite of my dads side in every single way. So I don’t think of my dads side too much or feel like I’m missing much since it was never really there to begin with.