Thanks! He thinks I was lying and feels betrayed. Yes, we both were told often, to simply leave the other one. That is the thing. But we went through this and become actually a happy couple. We were planning to move in together and talking about a child.

I know I was not respecting him, when not telling I had a past and when it came up not, trying to withhold this and so not giving him a choice. I was unaware. Back than, when I didn't tell about contact attempts, he wanted to know very much. Because he wanted to understand and cope. Now we dont talk about it. He came to understand in TP that this is something he has to deal with.
I just dont like him framing this now, as if I am the only one to blame. He is the normal guy and I am the crazy and lying *****.
I know this is about how you define honesty and cheating in a relationship. I respect his values and views. I just wish he could remember what it was like. And that maybe it is not helpfull frame anyhing normal. Like, him being normal, when he feels so threatned by my past.