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Old Mar 15, 2021, 02:53 AM
Amyjay Amyjay is offline
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
So, this is not about meeting in person specifically, but I was also thinking how the pandemic ending (or at least abating) would lead to my T starting to take vacation again. Since the pandemic started, I haven't gone more than 6 days (I think? maybe even 5) without having a session with him (he only took a few days off each for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's). He normally takes around 4 week-long vacations a year, plus some long weekends. So I've been very spoiled.

In 2019, in the summer, he was away 1 week, back for 3, away 1 week, back for 3, then away again for a week. We had multiple ruptures that summer, one of which led to me terminating for a bit. We both agreed that they were partly tied to his being away and my struggling with that (plus some other factors). I wonder if part of why things have been going so well between us the past year is that he's been consistently there, so I wasn't having, say, abandonment issues triggered frequently, then having to reconnect (there have been a few conflicts and a sort of mini-rupture at one point where I was making appointments with other T's, but we worked through it pretty quickly).

He's pretty cautious about COVID, so even though he's vaccinated, I doubt he'd travel anytime soon, at least by plane. But I could see him maybe taking a week off to drive someplace with his wife and son.

Sorry to drive this off topic a bit, but I guess your post started making me think about the totality of post-pandemic therapy.
We returned to face to face mid last year. and t later had to suddenly go away for nearly three months because of a family emergency. The benefit of having done virtual therapy was that we seamlessly reverted to virtual therapy while she was geographically distant. But true vacations - that is, true absences from work without seeing clients - still need to be taken from time to time.
Still the benefit remains that there are times where pre-pandemic we would have simply had to miss the session (or several). But now we can easily schedule on zoom and still connect in that way.
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