It sounds like she is burned-out by the end of the day. Of course, that is her responsibility to manage her day (and her energy levels); however, she is only human. You may want to cut her a little slack here since she has also shown herself to be very patient and available for you despite your recent ruptures (and some boundary pushing on your end). In other words, she has given you some leeway and grace recently- so maybe you could extend the same to her?

This is just a suggestion. Obviously you need to tell her how you feel, but perhaps you can allow some gray area to exist instead of insisting on things being black and white.

I know whenever I have offered some understanding and patience around some issue I have with my T (even when I think she messed up) it has gone a long way to building the relationship. Therapists aren't machines...they are humans too. Just some perspective for you. Hope it works out! These situations can be tough, but therapy gives us a chance to explore new patterns of relating in order to improve ourselves and our personal relationships outside of therapy.