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Old Mar 16, 2021, 11:00 AM
mindmechanic mindmechanic is offline
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@InkyBooky: I can definitely allow some gray to exist. What you said is reasonable. I think that I'm just fed up with Mondays going badly and the therapist always being in a hurry to get off the call while I'm left feeling triggered and anxious and we spend the rest of the week repairing. I offered her to stop doing Mondays at 5:45pm because she's tired and it's a disservice to our work and relationship. At first, she accepted my offer, but later changed her mind. I think that I need to hold my ground and never do Mondays at 5:45pm again.

I felt that it was my right to contact her last night after she abruptly hung up on me. At first, I apologized for any role that I played in making her feel pressured when she was already tired. I then resented my apology and called her out. That's when she said that she's about to terminate me because she can't do this anymore – the outside contact. But what did she expect? Did she really think that I wouldn't freak out, write, or call her when she hung up abruptly on me like that? I now know that just because I felt upset and that I had the right to a proper ending because we had 2 minutes left doesn't mean it was wise for me to contact her multiple times last night. That's the only thing that I think I did wrong last night, but I hope that the therapist can see her role in it.
Thanks for this!
InkyBooky