Yes, it’s a tough decision. @Yourself, we know it’s very hard so we are not gonna judge you.
If I were in your skin, I would consider if my wife loves me and if I could forgive her. It’s rare that you are gonna forget what happened but it’s possible that you forgive her if things have changed and she is worthy to fight for. You know what I mean?

Anyway, there’s not a guarantee about the result in the future. Maybe you will be happier with another person. It’s such a touchy topic.

Do you think it could work? What attitude is having that guy in relation to the parenting?