Well if the issue is her sharing too much and triggering you or giving short notices or not discussing why you are upset, then those are valid issues and you should discuss it with her.

If the issue is her taking days off then those are her legitimate days she is allowed to take. There is nothing you can do about it.

Death in the family isn’t the same, those are bereavement days. Seeing a doctor would be a sick day.

Vacation and personal days are different. Taking them for pursuing a hobby or spending time with family is not only appropriate, it’s what people take vacation days for! What do you think people take vacations for? No, death or sickness isn’t what vacation is for. She uses vacation days for a valid reason. Hobbies and family

If her work place doesn’t demand she only takes days during Christmas or Easter then she is free to take those days at other times. She is governed by her work place policies. Perhaps she is told to use her days by April 1st when a new cycle starts. She might HAVE to take these days now.

So it’s important to really face it what are you exactly upset about. If it’s about sharing, it might be wise to ask her to stop sharing. But then you’ll be guessing why she took a day off. What’s the true issue? How can you take focus of therapists lives and place it on your life and steps of improving it. Therapists and counselors are just people and yes they have lives outside of a clinic and they aren’t perfect