Sorry Narcissists, It is impossible to live with you. You lie, you cheat, and you dissapoint. I know I have one. He hurts me over and over again. I am to blame for everything. I hurt so bad. He doesn't care. He had the nerve to tell me I am fat, I just had a baby 4 month ago. I go to the gym 4x a week. I am working hard. I had a C-section. Yet, while we were dating, he was having sex with his estranged wife of 240 lbs. I weighed 115 lbs at the time. Nothing is ever good enough for a narcissist. So don't ever let yourself think you will be. You can't do enough for them. Making them 3 meals a day, taking care of 5 kids, 2 his, 2 mine, and one ours, will never be enough. He is always tired when it comes to sex, which leads me to believe, what the heck was going on when he had sex with me 5x a week and somehow was with his estranged wife as well. Now I can't even get once the week. The N will beat you down and make you feel worthless. I am telling you get out while you can, before there are so many kids involved you feel trapped. He will come on as your best friend, "your go to guy", sweep you off your feet with words and actions, it''s all a front. He will go behind your back and do whatever he wants. You are nothing. You can never be loved. The N loves himself so much, actually he is in love with himself. He feels he can do no wrong. He believes his lies. Everything you did as a couple is no longer going to happen. It will be what he wants, when he wants, what he wants to watch, telling you there is another TV. Then when you think you are actually making a connection, he will say maybe we'll do that later. Guess what LATER never comes. TOMORROW never comes. Never comes in the loving manner you wish. Seriously, if you have any insight you may be with an "N" run, run run far away. Otherwise, you will be trapped and he will convince you that it is you. Trust me, you can't be to blame for everything. He is not perfect. Noone is. Don't tell him that though, he will hold it against you. Most "N"s have deviant sex. I know, mine has but not with me. I suppose that was the attraction to the ex-wife. She would do whatever he wanted. I have to draw the line somewhere. It really sucks being lonely in a house with an "N". I hate it. I keep thinking it's going to change but it never does. It always goes back to him. He will somehow change everything, throw your past in your face, but if you do it to him, you will pay 10 fold. Trust me. Go away while you still can. I am so confused. I have kids that he puts down. Yet, I would never do that to his kids, because that isn't me. But if I did put his kids down, I know he would go. But expect to be treated like a doormat, walked all over and back again. Don't expect a thing, then you will never be disappointed. My doc asked why I wait for him at night to pay attention to me or talk to me, and guess what, I don't know. I wait keep thinking that he will love me but he is incapable. He is making me hate my ownself. I am rambling but trust me it's all true, very true.