I also wanted to let you know you are not alone. I have incontinence as a side effect of a med that makes me sleep so soundly I don't wake up in time. I wear heavier pads at night. I used to need them during the day and found a brand (Always) had thin ones that didn't show. I was allergic to them and found I didn't really need them but it might help you to try to find thinner pads for the day. Some of them hold a lot of urine. If it's not much at all I used to have patients (elderly women) who used period pads; I'm not sure how well that worked but I don't remember them being wet or smelly so apparently it did.

Please let me know if I can help you in any way.