Hugs, if wanted. I've worried before that my T thinks "Ugh, I'm stuck with her now." Because I felt abandoned by my ex-marriage counselor after being very attached, so I think he realizes how much it could damage me if he also rejected me. And I can be needy at times (see: the email I just sent him). He's hung in there with me, including through a few ruptures (and my leaving briefly at one point). But he's also a sports psychologist, and I think to myself, wouldn't he rather just be working with an athlete, where it's more straightforward? And I feel ashamed of the attachment, because he was initially quite uncomfortable with it (not sure if you've heard the full stone story). He's come around some and seems to understand and accept it, but I just worry about being "too much"--like too needy, too attached.


As for handling it--talking to him about it. Trying to accept that he chooses who to work with, so if it was really that big of an issue, he'd refer me out. And if he hasn't by now, then I doubt he would. So I'd try talking to her about your feelings. I imagine they probably also affect you in your outside life, too, in relationships with people? I know they do with me, in terms of "this person must feel stuck with me" for friends and my H. So it would be good to talk about in terms of that as well.