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Mar 19, 2021, 06:40 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by RoxanneToto
I think to start changing this mindset would take some conscious choice - reminding yourself that you don’t have to be perfect to be found worthy of love by another person, learning to accept and love yourself for who you are.
Admittedly I understand very little about bipolar, so I hope these aren’t totally inappropriate suggestions (I also admit I’m not handling the knowledge I don’t love myself very well right now, and I also don’t have a super strong attachment to my own T but it could happen. I don’t think I’d handle that very well, either, so maybe I’m being a little hypocritical here lol).
Nobody deserves to feel ashamed because they like someone else, though.
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Thank you! Your post is helpful, it really is. The way I grew up, being imperfect (the standard of which changed by the hour) was a valid reason not to be worthy of love. It's something I struggle mightily with and need to focus on more in therapy.
Strangely, it took me a long time to decide I even wanted to "settle" with my T. It was a good 18 months in before I decided to really dig in and work with her. Once I attached, the attachment was stronger than I had expected it to be.
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