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Mar 19, 2021, 08:44 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I don't know how, but L and I have worked through similar. I used to think I would taint her or her space in some way. Like hugging her or holding her blanket or talking about ex-T; are just some examples. She reassures me that I haven't tainted her. I also am worried that she feels stuck with me or regrets things/our relationship. She also reassures me she has no regrets.
L knows how attached I am to her. She even knows I have maternal transference with her. I'm glad she knows. It's a secret I don't have to hide. I wish I remember how I was able to communicate such things, but I don't.  |
It sounds so good with L - and you likely have a talent for self-expression. I believe my therapist would respond in a similar way if she knew how attached I feel to her...she has said some of the same to me. I just wish I knew how to explain my feelings to her in some deeper way than simply saying I feel very attached to you. Yeah, well duh...No, but I mean VERY attached, so what am I supposed to do?
I can't seem to dig out the words. I think I'm terrified of either rejection, or that she'll take me lightly and miss the cue.
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