I do find each time I disclosed something about how attached I am to her to be valuable. The anxiety lessens, and I feel more comfortable to be myself. I think it has also strengthened our relationship. She's helping me right now with object constancy, so I can hold her in mind and heart and not feel so dependent on her. She says the goal is finding interdependence and learning how to balance being independent with still getting my needs met.

If you can't seem to find the right words, maybe try poetry or quotes to find those words. L and I use those a lot because they sometimes can convey a message more clearly than my own simple words. Or maybe even using a song or a movie character can help. We use that sometimes too.

I do think if you're T seems supportive of attachment of any kind, that you might find relief by expressing your deep attachment to her. Even just not having to hold onto that anxiety.

L and I have recently explored ways that my attachment manifests? Like fantasies or I even told her about a sex dream I had about her. Those were HARD topics! Still embarrassed. But I no longer feel ashamed. We explored the meanings behinds them and how they were not violating to her. We've also been working on words like nurture and intimacy within our relationship. That's still hard for me too.

Maybe don't just jump in with both feet if you're scared of rejection? Maybe just test the waters slowly?