Yes true I’ve been so hung up on every little thing I feel I’ve done wrong that I never really considered the fact that maybe neither of us are necessarily *wrong* but we seem to have different views of the friendship. Maybe because of how close we were it’s difficult for me to grasp the idea that us simply growing up apart and just not knowing how to address that is a very real possibility.

A couple of years ago, one of my best friends and I kind of went through a similar thing. We’re really close again now and everything is great, but it was similar in that we also no longer lived near each other and the distance hit me and our communication dwindled. I would see her constantly posting videos on Snapchat but couldn’t talk to me and would say she’s tired. I initiated a lot with not much back. I mentioned I felt hurt she wasn’t putting much effort in and again, not much came of that conversation. When I stopped initiating we didn’t talk for a couple of years and she recently reached out. She had been struggling with her me mental health and had pushed me away because of it, though I thought I had pushed her away.

So yeah I’ve been through something like this before I suppose