Thank you for your kind words--that really means a lot!

I worry that my relative will get pulled into unhealthy drama caused by my controlling mother. I feel lIke I'm just hanging on by a thread these days, and I know my parents also want to treat me like I'm their therapist. I used to listen, but started feeling smothered. My parents want to use me as a sounding board, and then start picking fights or denying my version of events. It's a mess-with-the-mind situation.

You are right-it's not my job to fix my parents. It's so deeply ingrained. I'm struggling to remind myself of that.