Nothing wrong with having friends of opposite gender or keeping up in touch with people even if they are exes. Both I and my husband have friends, we know each other friends and have no reason to be jealous or insecure. I keep in touch with my ex husband and my husband not only knows, he communicates with him as well (when occasion calls for it). Heck my ex sent us substantial wedding gift. So here.

Having said that we don’t have secret communications with exes or secret friends and we don’t profess love to anyone but each other. So that’s the difference.

But I’d not generalize that people should forever cut communication with others and lock their spouses up so they don’t talk to no one. That’s extreme. But this isn’t simply occasional catching up with ones ex and spouses knowing about it. That’s a very different story.

Secrecy and love declarations putting it in affair category