Hi @Ladytmt welcome to My Support Forums. When someone has a problem with alcohol, that's the most important thing to the person. The person lives their life around the alcohol more and more. It's a very "narcissistic" addiction so you never really KNOW the person's true self and quite frankly, the person who has the addiction doesn't even know their true self either. The person can get very delusional and moody, high one minute and low and angry the next.

You never really had a healthy relationship to begin with, and there are many symptoms that come with this addiction that are so narcissistic. This includes the love bombing which is part of the high and not REAL love. YES! there is a lot of emotional abuse and blaming others for being unsatisfied.

If this boyfriend did have covid then he was unable to consume alcohol, so now you are dealing with what is called a "dry drunk" because NOW he isn't feeding his addiction. Please don't go the route of being discarded either, because what he says now is what it means to him to be sober and now he doesn't really know HOW to function and live his life this way. Truth is, he never really knew himself, instead he was always escaping via the alcohol and other drugs.

PLEASE, completely distance from him and allow yourself to emotionally detach. Take time now to educate yourself about alcoholism and addictions so you understand how addictions affect the person that is very unhealthy for anyone that is in a relationship with them. Keep in mind that he HAD to stop using because he was sick, so yes given it was not his choice he will behave strangely and even express resentments. A person genuinely has to learn how to live their life differently when they stop using, while the physical addiction isn't present there is a lot of psychological that will need to work on living life without the constant escape of the alcohol or drug.

Truth is, "you can't lose something you never really had in the first place". The relationship was never healthy for you. You now need to learn more about WHAT a healthy relationship is too. You may not know which can come from your own history. That is why educating yourself and reaching out for therapy can help you so you don't end up in yet another unhealthy relationship.