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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
L and I talk about longings and fantasies a lot. I wish she could tuck me into bed and kiss my forehead goodnight. I wish when I'm sick that she bring me soup and rub my back. I wish we'd sit on the couch together and I put my head on her shoulder and her hold me tight. I wish she could play with my hair. I wish I could just hold her hand against my cheek. I wish I could have been her child or her adopt me. I wish we could lay in bed, holding hands with our arms intertwined, just resting. I wish we could watch tv together and I just lay my head in her lap.
However, I am satisfied with all that she does do for me. I know I'm very lucky to have her. She does met a lot of my needs even though she (nor anyone) couldn't met all my needs/wants. And it does help immensely! I have a ways to go, but I'm already feeling more secure within our relationship as well as within myself.
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And what would happen if you could never see her again? If she moved out of state or released you as a client? How functioning would you be?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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