Hello, I am new here. I have been in recovery for over 15 years. The beginning was awful, painful, sometimes excrutiating but so worth it! The last five years for instance, have been the best of my life! I have a home, a good, strong, calm marriage, a stable professional life... so why am I here? Because I am a person who does good to other people. And today for instance, I am not sure I did a good thing because people do good things (or they should!) or if I acted out of codependency. How do I know that what I do for others is a good thing and not a codependent one?
I remember that when I was young and deep into codependency, I had the urge to do good, I lived for doing good to other people. It is not an urge anymore and I am able to put myself first but sometimes I complicate my life in order to do good things for other people. And I hope it is not the codependency kicking in again... How can I tell the difference?