T owns the building he works out of and rents to two other T’s so I think that is influencing his plans. He is no longer taking new clients as he transitions, will not be taking on individual clients and plans on doing therapy intensives for couples and possibly group therapy once it is safe to gather. He wants to travel more. Everything he is moving towards has a definite beginning and ending point when he starts it unlike individuals where “it takes as long as it takes”. So... he has not given me a definitive time line. He has said he is going to be in the office less and sometimes he will offer phone or video sessions but not always. If his travels and such get to a point where I need more stability to keep growing he will help me find someone who can offer that stability.
While he has made me feel rushed in my work in the recent past for other reasons he is not rushing me to heal so he can retire. He has also told me that he knows I stay connected to important people from my past weather or not I am able to stay in touch with them. He has said that he is OK with being a part of each others lives for the rest of our lives... he was not willing to say what that would look like beyond allowing me to stay in touch at least in a limited way and he would respond.
We have also talked about what feelings I have for him are truly about him the person and which feelings are likely because of his role as therapist. While it isn’t that clear cut it was helpful to have it acknowledged that many of the feelings I have for him ARE about him not transference, not just because he is my T but because of who he is.