What if my T is not a grown-up? Or, not enough, anyway. Or I perceive that that is the case? What do I do in those times when I need a grown-up to see what is happening, rather than be presented with someone who does not have the strength to confront real difficulties, someone who does not really want to deal with me when I am in trouble?

I do not think there are a whole lot of grown-ups in this society. Having a T who is not emotionally very, very mature can be frightening, for me, at least. Maybe not totally disabling frightening, but still...

You can tell me to shut up...