Great question, which I had to really think about. Honestly, it is more of a friendship and her reassurance. She has accomplished SO much in her life. So many things I wish I could. She is a hiker and I would just LOVE to go on a hike together. She has hiked for many years, does over night trips, etc. I start hiking during COVID. I have hiked on semi high mountain. There is so much to learn about hiking but I have nobody to go with except my inexperienced adult child. I would love to have her show me the ropes. She has told me anytime I want hiking advice, to just ask. Hiking has been a major part of my ability to cope over the last year so it is very much therapy related but I hate using regular therapy time discussing it in any depth.

I had an amazing mother and long term T played a maternal role in many ways. Current T is 4 years younger than I am and while we are alike in many ways, our life experiences are quite different. My children are all adults, hers children is 6, her parents are both still alive--mine have been deceased for quite a few years. Those were some of the things that long term T understood and had experienced. So like with raising children she had experience and kind of helped me with all my parenting concerns