I used to have longings of her just taking care of me in a motherly way. During long therapy the urges of motherly care diminished and I felt I didn't need her in a way I used to. But we did become very fond of each other and decided to become friends after the therapy ended. So in a way I got exactly what I hoped for and it feels just very normal actually. Nothing bad happened like I heard people here warn about.

So what it is like? We have talked a lot about both random and more personal stuff after therapy. She has lost her special halo in my eyes and became someone in the same category as my other friends. The things she says and does don't have an effect out of proportion to me anymore. But I like her a lot and am terribly happy she is still around.

I guess I wrote this to tell that the urges can diminish and disappear, both during and after therapy. And that therapists are actually very normal people. The longings rise from the past and are brought on the surface by the nurturing therapy relationship. And the person behind is just a regular person.