I didn't really write what I did to suggest a friendship. I realize in most cases it is not possible or desirable. The point was rather that the longings can disappear during the therapy and also the realization, that the person once making them surface is just a very regular person and without the context of therapy would never have caused any of those feelings. Coming from someone who got to know her ex-T after therapy. Mine is really nice, we have lots in common and enjoy each other's company, but like I said, the longings and need to be cared for in a motherly fashion are not there at all. The reality is very different than the fantasies I once had.