I actually said exactly this to her as I was hoping it would open a conversation about it and maybe let me know her perspective and why she sometimes becomes distant out of the blue. Unfortunately, even while trying to have this conversation with her about our friendship she took days to reply and it would be a couple of days of me left on read before she would then text me saying she was busy and would reply later :/ I feel like it would have been nice if she at least offered a call or dedicated time to text and have this conversation but it seemed very half hearted on her part so I don’t feel comfortable bringing it up again. It hurt even more because this was after we had gone like a month without speaking and it took a lot of courage on my part to reach out and ask to have such a vulnerable conversation but I didn’t really feel heard and also don’t think she saw a problem with how she responded.

Sometimes I beat myself over it and think I should have just left it and it was a petty thing to bring up but then again, I wasn’t aggressive or accusatory at all and you should never feel guilty about addressing your feelings to a friend you thought you could trust.