I don't think you can ever really know why someone doesn't return a call or follow up on an invite. It's especially frustrating when someone agrees to go out and then just never gets back to you or responds when you try to pick a specific time. I used to get really bothered by these situations and wonder what I had done, but as I get older, I take it less personally. People are busy and have a limited amount of time to spend with friends. If someone says they want to get together but then never does, I am more likely to just move on at this point and make plans with someone who wants to see me.


In my own experience, friendship groups sometimes fall apart when one person moves. The group dynamic changes. The last time that happened to me, I stayed friends with the two women who were still in town but we saw each other separately and rarely did group things. Eventually both of them moved also!