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Originally Posted by Aviza
I'm dating and this guy I've tried ending things with. He invites himself over, walks in my apt. Without knocking. He doesn't contact me for months blames covid than calls thinking he just come over and ****. I'm shocked honestly. I don't value the same things he does and I'm shocked and how presumptuous he is.
How do i get rid of him? I've told him not to contact me and i thought it finally worked. Til it didn't. Literally hadn't heard from him since December. It's March! And he thinks we can pick up where we left off? An I'm the crazy one.
Help me. I don't want to see him.
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if this was me I would say ok I have told this person its over and they persist. ok time for me to up my boundaries. keep myapartment or house doors locked. and if he has at any time been given a set of keys, change the locks, its now very easy to change ones own locks. a hardware store or department can help you with what kinds of door knobs extera have the right lockingsystem for your needs and managers are required to change house/ apartment locks if there is stalking or domestic violence situation.
I also would get a restraining order preventing the person from persisting or risk their getting arrested. its illegal to force entrance into ones home with out permission so if he does it again I would call the police for an intruder.
in my situation the person got the message with the changed locks so that they could no longer enter any time, the restraining order and first arrest for tresspassing / intruder.
theres also many home security alert systems you can get that monitor your home and alert the police when an intruder has entered. they work fantastically.
ultimately only you can decide when is enough and set boundaries that fit your life and what you want to do about his continued intrusions in your life.
my suggestion contact your treatment providers who can help you decide what is best for you.