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No I don't think it will take a year and half to establish this with others. You likely spent much of this time just digging out of the foxhole you had to create to survive your marriage. Now that this relationship is ending and you have experienced what a two-way communication is like, you will be more receptive to sharing yourself with others who deserve it. You will get more efficient.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I really really liked this, chaotic13. It's a very hopeful view, and I like the foxhole analogy. You are right, yes, I have been digging myself out. God, sometimes my arms get so tired. The dirt can be heavy. When it rains, it's mud. Yuck.

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Sorry to hear about the impending job loss. Maybe your T could be a job coach too!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Thank you, MissCharlotte. I am trying not to think of the job problem now, as I have to get through this all-consuming assignment at work right now. My boss will lose her job too. I keep telling her, we have to get through this, just ignore the job problem, and when we are done, you can be depressed and worry about the future. I'm not sure that is very helpful, but I really need her now to not give up so that we can get this task done. Miss, I already have a separate career counselor. [/rollseyes] As part of my divorce. I went to see her 3 times last year and one time earlier this year. This last time I was so stressed out, I couldn't work with her, so I haven't been back. But I may need to in the future.

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I'm so sorry you will be losing your job; may this be a great opportunity in disguise

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Thank you, ECHOES. Again, a very hopeful statement. It is really nice how people here reframe things for you!